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Whom To Fellowship Whom Not To

 

Donny Weimar

This topic could be one of a salvific nature if not carefully dealt with. It is not merely about with whom to socialize, but may include such. Much more is at stake. The bigger issue is one of spiritual partnership. In the negative, here is one passage for major consideration

But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner -- not even to eat with such a person (1 Cor. 5:11).

Paul delineates between social "fellowship" between sinners and saints. Clearly God demands us to refuse the immoral company of brethren bereft of the spiritual nature. But, He does not intend for us to altogether withhold socialization from unbelievers. How else would we evangelize? Such a teaching would even necessitate our leaving the world altogether (5:10 et al). To wit, socialization and fellowship have things in common, but are not precisely the same. As my high school geometry teacher said, every square is a rectangle but not every rectangle is a square. So too, not all fellowship is merely socialization, although we call it that when we have congregational meals. Calling such feasting fellowship is actually somewhat a misnomer, at least in my opinion.

When we become Christians, we are "called into the fellowship of His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord" (1 Co. 1:9). Such fellowship is understood biblically as a spiritual association, a community of saved souls, or joint participants in the grace of God. We are adopted into God's heavenly family (Ephesians 3:15). One of the most descriptive passages elucidating the spiritual partnership shared between believers is 1 John 1:7

But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.

When two independent souls are united with God (in fellowship with Him), they are bound together into fellowship with one another. However, when a Christian turns from the goodness of God, as in the case of 1 Corinthians 5, that fellowship is inherently severed. Consequently, socialization must ultimately be withheld from the impenitent brother even if that means forcing that brother to leave the congregation.

Now a new issue arises. If all socialization is withheld from the wayward brother or sister, how is Jude 22,23 to be obeyed? It must be there is a type of fellowshipping-socialization and another type of interaction that is non-fellowshipping-socialization. As such, motive is the key. For instance, in Romans 1:32 not only is the sinner condemned, but also the believer who condones sinful activity. The problem in 1 Corinthians 5 was continued spiritual partnership with those whom God has broken fellowship, a salvific state. This placed the Corinthians in error themselves, thus the exhortation. Their motives for continuing a relationship were impure, emotional and not spiritually driven. On the other hand is the motive to rescue the perishing.

Wayward brethren find themselves in a dreadful predicament (Hebrews 4:14-16). The further one moves away from grace the more difficult the return. Hence, the faithful are told to pull them out of the fire (Jude 23). Re-evangelizing the erring is no easy task, but one expected of us nonetheless. If all interaction with the wayward is forbidden, however, how is this to be accomplished? The key is cut on top and bottom.

On the topside, the faithful child of God has the motive of restoring the erring brother or sister (cf. Matthew 18:15ff). This is pure motive. It's not ignoring an eldership's disciplinary decision. It's not a casual talk over coffee at the café. It is the motive of taking the call of the Gospel for repentance to the erring. The bottom-side of the key is a penitent heart.

Fellowship is a spiritual partnership. The faithful mustn't partner with works of darkness (Ephesians 5:11). We must therefore abstain from joining hands with those espousing error, teaching error or living in error (2 John 9-11 et al). Works of darkness must be exposed and every effort made to restore the souls working them to the path of truth, of light.

 

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