At one congregation where my wife and I labored,
I was introduced to "Come As You Are Parties." One late
evening we received a call inviting us to such a party. We politely
declined the invitation. The caller assured us that such gatherings
were just "good clean fun." I cannot attest to the truthfulness
of that statement because we never attended any of the "hilarious
gatherings." I cringe to think what such gatherings might
be like in our day and age when so many seem to be lacking in
their sense of morality and modesty.
But, that phrase often comes to memory as I assemble
with the church. It seems that we have adopted a "Come as
you are" attitude when it comes to attire which we wear when
we gather to worship God. In these remarks, please remember that
I am not referring to the working clothes that our men and women
must wear whenever they are either immediately coming to services
from work or are going to work following services.
When I was growing up, I often heard preachers
warn of extravagant styles of clothing. Ladies especially would
try to out-dress one another. Not so today. It seems that the
opposite is often true. So many seem to be opting for the "worst
dressed" award. Shamefacedness (1 Timothy 2:9) is no longer
practiced by many, neither men nor women, in the church. It is
sometimes embarrassing to even glance toward some of the young
ladies who seem to delight in displaying parts of their bodies
that should be covered in public at all times. I wonder what parents
are thinking about when they permit their boys and girls to wear
such attire. It certainly is not bringing them up in the "nurture
and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4).
A good lady recently said to me that she thought
we were placing too much emphasis on what people wear when they
come to worship. She either has her eyes closed or has chosen
to absolutely block it from her mind. Naturally, she, like so
many others, quickly reminded me that God looks at the heart of
man and not on his outward appearance (1 Samuel 16:7). Well, we
ought to be reminded that we are not God. We are affected
by what we see outwardly. Man can be distracted by what
others wear. Thus, it behooves us all, men and women, to adorn
ourselves in an appropriate manner wherever we are; and, that
would include when we come to worship.
Our reverence to God is surely reflected by what
we wear as much as by what we say and do. Worshipping "in
spirit and in truth" (John 4:24) demands that our minds be
properly focused. All of us should feel responsible toward one
another and conduct ourselves in a manner that would not prevent
others from worshipping scripturally.
I also serve as an elder where I preach. Several
years ago we felt it necessary to place the following statement
below the names of those who publicly serve the congregation:
"The elders ask those honored who serve in public worship
to dress appropriately." Some either do not read the bulletin
or they choose to ignore the pleas of the elders. Occasionally,
the matter becomes so serious that we must admonish, and, in a
few instances, have been forced to remove from serving those who
refuse to submit to the reasonable requests of their overseers
(Hebrews 13:17).
Surely, we are capable of choosing attire that
is appropriate when worshipping God. We seem to have no trouble
choosing what to wear to weddings, funerals, and other important
events. Why would we do otherwise when coming into an assembly
where the Lord is present (Matthew 18:20).
Men, it will not kill you to present yourself
in neat, clean attire. Ladies, take pride in yourselves. Make
yourselves modestly attractive when coming to the assembly of
God's people. Parents, set the example and require modesty in
your sons and daughters. Don't accept the "everybody's doing
it" excuse. Those who serve God with all their being (Luke
10:27) will practice modesty at all times. Those who profess godliness
will live by a higher standard than those of the world (1 Timothy
2:10).
One day, we must all answer for our deeds done
in the flesh, not to the elders or preachers or parents, but to
Christ (2 Corinthians 5:10). What will our answer be? -225 Knollwood
Drive, Wadsworth, OH 44281.